Starting the Conversation When Do We Start Listening to Our Mothers?

10391651_744142854733_2535256_nBy: Marianne Reid Anderson

“Wash your hands”; “Sit up straight”; “Clean your room”; “Save up rather than put it on a charge card”; are just a few of the seemingly endless list of directives that turn out to be very valuable advice that we get from our mothers or other caring adult. At some point, we realize Mom is right and to stay healthy, we should wash our hands. To save on back problems later in life, we should sit up straight. To get along with roommates and spouses, we should clean up after ourselves. To manage debt and avoid interest, it’s better to save.

Yet, generation after generation, rebellious youths don’t seem to be listening. But as experience shows us, at some point, they do. Is it when they mature, are on their own, have kids of their own?

In addition to the typical advice, I have received a ton of great advice over the years from my own mother. The advice ranges from how to clean (although I think she may be giving up on that one), how to see someone else’s side or point of view, how to manage a household and so much more. But I think the best advice she gave me and my sister was through our teenage and college years when she simplified all rules into one guiding principle: “Just don’t do anything that will cause me any grief.” And that pretty much summed it all up. We knew not to drink, smoke, stay out late, behave or dress promiscuously, drive carelessly or give into any other temptation that might, in any way, shape or form, do anything that could result in causing our mother “grief.”

What was the best advice you ever received from your mother? Or, what has been the best advice you have ever received on motherhood? Let’s “Continue the Conversation” on my blog at where you can post this advice for our readers and any future mothers out there.